Blogging, Rants & Reflections

Did my relationship replace my blog?? (and P.S. I got engaged!)

Why hello there. How do I start these things, again? Ahem.

I would like to talk to you about blogging and relationships. As you may or may not know, in my youth, I was a regular blogger. (And by “in my youth” I mean about 3 years ago, and by “regular” I mean on-the-regular as opposed to “normal,” which I am not.) Then, everything changed when I met the love of my life. Let’s take a quick look at my blogging activity after that point:

  • August 9, 2017 was my last regular blog post. August 24, 2017 was when I posted an apology for my lack of blogging because I had met someone a few months earlier and had slowly lost the desire to blog. That was a mere 15 days between posts.
  • My next post was 20 days later, on September 13, 2017, when I officially announced I’d be taking a blogging break.
  • Then, 109 days later, on December 31, 2017, I gave a life update: I’d be moving to Florida to be near the someone and had secured a librarian position!
  • April 10, 2019, 465 days later, I emerged from the shadows with a book review I wrote for another blog (it wasn’t even a review on my own damn blog!), and I laughed heartily at my young self for once thinking a mere 15 days between posts required an apology.

And now I’m here, and WordPress looks all different, and there are these things called “blocks,” and they are stupid, and I don’t understand them, and I want to go back to the way things were please when it was simple and clean and not trying to be “user-friendly.”

Oh. You can switch back to the old version. Excellent!

Ok, to the point: I wonder about why my passion for blogging decreased during this time. Maybe there just wasn’t enough room in the “B” file in my brain for both “blog” and “boy,” so something had to go (that’s how brains work, right?). But mostly what I attributed the cessation of blogging to was that the thoughts I once shared on my blog were now being shared with my boy, so… I didn’t feel like I needed the blog anymore? Maybe my need to write was more of a need to communicate my thoughts. Maybe I didn’t feel like I had a real person to brain-vomit with until then. But that can’t be all the reason, right?

Maybe it’s also a matter of time. For instance, here are a few graphs depicting how I spent my time before and after the boy:

figure 1

figure 2

As you can see, I don’t have very much time for anything else besides snuggling right now. Not that I’m complaining.

Anyway, lately I’ve been feeling the lack of blogging in my life a little stronger so I’m hoping to start posting a bit more again! What about? Well, my areas of expertise at the moment include books, being a librarian, snuggling, Disney World, and being engaged, so…


Why yes, I did say Disney World! I’ve been an annual passholder for like 2 years now and it’s awesome. I really recommend the new–

Ok, ok, I’ll get to the point you’ve been waiting for: I’m engaged! Look at how adorable and happy we are about it:

YAY! Now we get to snuggle together for the rest of our lives!

Anyway, this is the part when I ask about your thoughts! I want to know a few things:

  1. Was there ever a time you stopped doing something you love because your life changed? Did you ever go back to it eventually?
  2. What are you interested in reading about? I’m debating opening this blog up to things other than books, so lmk if you think that’s a good idea or want a ton of posts about snuggling Disney World, cause THAT I can do.

Thanks for reading! I’ve missed you.


8 thoughts on “Did my relationship replace my blog?? (and P.S. I got engaged!)”

  1. Ahem but you blog??? I only know post boy pre and post Disney freak! Oh and I was there ( engagement wise) love you x


  2. Well I do remember following you way back when, and I am glad to see you are happy and engaged and have lots of snuggles to look forward to. I stopped blogging and writing when I met my ‘Boy’ six years ago, but then as we gradually settled into life and got married and then had a kid last year, I found myself always going back to it. If it’s a passion and a hobby, you will find it eventually, when the something that happened becomes a new normality. I like your post about Disney World and snuggling, and also love the book posts. In fact, I just like how you write, so any posts (if you are post-ally inclined) would be read by me and enjoyed 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much! That is good to hear. I think “settling” is a good word. The last 3 years have been a whirlwind and now I feel a bit more settled which is why I think I’m going back to blogging. Thanks for sharing!


  3. Ah it’s lovely to have you back! ❤ I do get what you mean- boys do tend to get in the way of blogging 😉 love your graphs!! They make everything clear 😉 Also that's cool you've got a Disney world pass 😀 Massive congratulations on your engagement! 😀 ❤
    And PS I still haven't used the new wordpress setup- I refuse!

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